Price Above Rubies: Her Character- Trustworthiness

 "Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies."  - Proverbs 31:10

Her Character (Proverbs 31: 11-12, 20, 25-26)

 The Proverbs 31 woman is often pictured as a woman who wears a long skirt and has long hair. She gets up before dawn and already has a full breakfast on the table, she kisses her husband and children while vacuuming with one hand and reading the Bible with another. While this picture is all well and good, it is not realistic.
  While those things are always good things to work towards, lets face it...not everyone woman has the same dress conviction. Not every woman can get up at dawn, or cook from scratch, and some may not even be great multi-taskers. We have taken the Proverbs 31 woman and turned her into almost and idol of what we should worship instead of just a guideline of how we should work to be.
 Don't believe me? Here is an example: Picture walking in a store and two women are standing at in the produce section. One lady is in pants, a modern style shirt, shorter hair style, and maybe some highlights. The other lady has a dress to the floor, modest shirt,  and hair long-up in a bun. Now at first glance who would you choose as the godliest of the two? Who would you say is the Proverbs 31 woman?
 I know I automatically choose the lady in the skirt because she appears to be holy. How many of you would do so?
 We are very set on the image of being that perfect woman, that a lot of us forget that " the Lord seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the Lord looketh on the heart" (I Samuel 16:7)
 He sees our character and heart towards Him. He sees our motive and every reason behind why we do the things we do. So let us look at the character this virtuous woman in Proverbs 31 as God sees her.



 She is trustworthy.
" Thee heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life" Proverbs 31:11-12

 Before mentioning anything else the first thing God mentions is how her her husband trusts in her. A man who can trust his wife is a confident man. Husbands need to know that when worse comes to worse that their wife can be trusted to stay with them at their most vulnerable moments. 
 Men are the stronger vessel of the two. They are appointed heads of the household by God. They are providers and decision makers. But every strong vessel has a weakness, and when they have a wife they can trust in it strengthens them when they can occasionally show that weakness without fear.

 God tells us that a woman of virtue will do him good and not evil all the days of her life. 
 Women are notorious for getting together and having a husband bashing party. "My husband don't do this this and this", "My husband said this, this, and this", " My husband doesn't do things I like", and the list goes on from there. Part of that trustworthiness a husband has in his wife is that she will not go and air out all of his dirty laundry to the world...and yet, that is what most women do when they get a chance. Last time I checked, we women do not walk around with halos on our heads. We would be mortified if we knew he was airing our dirty laundry out, or bashing us to his buddies about how bad we did things.
 Now, I am not saying if we are frustrated we should keep it pinned up. Sometimes it does help to talk to someone, but make it someone who is a like-minded christian lady who will not gossip with you, but council and help you. You also should be talking to your husband if you have any issues, not to a group of hens around a table at Starbucks.
 By airing his flaws, and not praising his goodness to you, you are doing evil by your husband. In reverse, brag about your husband and how he does good things for you...even it if is just bringing home a paycheck so you don't have to work(not many people have that luxury in this economy, so be thankful). Being good to him is keeping his flaws under wraps, and praying for him. Praying God will change his direction and his mindset. Only God can change your husband, and your honest prayers will be honored by the Lord.

If you are not married yet, the example can still apply to you. You can pray that God prepare you to be a trustworthy wife to your husband. It may seem a silly prayer, but in truth it is much easier than you think to pick apart his flaws and nag him when he is down. 

Although these particular verses are about our husbands, we can easily apply them to our other relationships.

 To be a woman with a price above rubies, we need to work prayerfully to be trustworthy.